I am Kianya. I am from Brooklyn, NY. I have lived in several countries and cities; currently I live in Pennsylvania.
I love meeting new people, love to chat about life goals, share ideas, and learn about different cultures.
Outside from working, I enjoy cooking, traveling and spending time with my family and friends. My favorite ice cream is cookies and cream.
I have always heard the sayings, “toughen up” or “don’t cry, you will be fine.” But is it really that easy?
Growing up, I heard those lines countless times, and I wondered if it was fair to say. I wondered if people were actually giving good advice, or just being inconsiderate of each other’s feelings. Or maybe that they didn’t want to deal with other’s sensitivities at all.
I wanted someone to hear me out, be that shoulder to lean on when things were falling apart. I wanted someone to listen to my cries, frustrations, and feelings when I felt like no one was there for me.
Instead of sharing, I kept a lot of things to myself and did not want to express my emotions to anyone. I felt like no one was present with me during my tough times. I got tired of hearing: “you are too sensitive,” or “stop – you will be fine.” It did not stop there. It was on-going! No one was there to listen to my feelings or they felt like my sensitivity was overwhelming.
It was not until I was 24, that I reached out to a therapist.
Of course, I had insecurities and was uncomfortable when meeting her. I was nervous and feared that she would be judgmental. However I saw overtime, that she was calm and she listened. I became comfortable in sharing my thoughts.
Therapy has rebuilt me.
Therapy helped me to “be me.” I am able to verbalize my thoughts without judgment. It has elevated my life and given me a different perspective on how to cope and deal with issues that may arise.